Martin Garrard, a famous American psychologist, did an experiment.
Before the execution, the judge took the dead prisoner into a dark room, tied to the bed, and told the dead prisoner that he would die by dripping blood.
Then, the judge had someone use a piece of wood, in the left wrist of the dead prisoner scratched.
Then, turn on the faucet, dripping water to the copper basin under the bed, making a tinkling sound.
The sound of dripping water from fast to slow, the dead prisoner generated great fear. He sensed a sharp pain in his wrist, and his blood was being lost little by little.
After a day, the judge came again and found the dead prisoner dead.
The monitoring records showed that the symptoms of death were the same as death by blood loss, but, in fact, he had not lost a drop of blood.
This is the most typical state of internal depletion, where the body is not moving and the mind is active.
If you think too much, your mind will be scattered, and if your mind is scattered, your will will be broken.
The best antidote to life is to refuse internal depletion.
February 9, during the Beijing Winter Olympic Games.
In the short track speed skating men's 1500m semi-final, Ren Ziwei, who is ranked first in the world, was called for a foul and went out of the competition early, without reaching the final.
When reviewing his mistakes, Ren Zewei said the most.
The reason why he failed was because he thought too much.
Before the semi-finals, everyone was optimistic about Ren Ziwei, expecting him to win the third gold medal.
Ren Zewei himself has been thinking: how to rush first in the final, which tactics to win fast, not get first and how to do ......
The pre-race overthinking, so that he carried a heavy burden of thought, so that the official game, Ren Ziwei skating state poor, committing low-level mistakes, due to collision foul, was canceled.
Ren Ziwei said.
"The semi-finals were not even finished, but I kept thinking about the final. I lost half of it before I got on the field."
As the old saying goes: those who have a heart have something to be tired of, those who don't have a heart don't care.
Many times, people live tired, not because of how big the difficulties encountered, but from their own thinking too much.
A small thing, think too much, will be sullen; a big thing, think too much, will carry the pressure; a good thing, think too much, will carry the pressure.
A good thing, think too much, you will suffer from loss; a bad thing, think too much, you will toss and turn sleepless.
The heart is simple, the world is simple; the heart is complex, the world is complex.
Life's tired, tired in the heart; heart is not tired, people are not tired.
The most frightening thing about a person is not how much they have failed along the way, but when they should have been going forward with one mind, they were tripped up by various thoughts.
In life, are you often like this.
Tomorrow's exam, obviously plenty of time, but still have to worry about whether they can catch up.
You've said everything during the day, but before you go to bed at night, you still have to think about whether you should say it or not.
Other people perform singing, win the attention of the whole audience, they will mutter: if I also participate in ......
Psychologists say: everything more thought, is a kind of internal consumption, it will not only not help you, but also exhaust all your energy.
The most loss in the world, is to worry about things that have not yet happened, and anxiety about the results of their fantasy.
Human energy is limited, don't take everything to heart.
The things of life, just do your best; the things of feelings, just let nature take its course.
The best state of life for a person is to stop the mental internal consumption and not to think too much about everything.
Psychologist Mike told the story of a patient.
One day, before going to bed, Hall looked through his circle of friends and found that his colleague Alan had liked all of his mutual friends, but not himself.
Hall was very disappointed, he associated himself with mediocre work performance, and general relationship with the leadership, and no hope of promotion in the near future.
He felt that not only Alan, as if colleagues are looking down on themselves.
He regretted that he should not give up money and did not send gifts to the leaders.
The more Hall thought about it, the more upset he was, so much so that he lost sleep all night.
The next morning, send his daughter to kindergarten.
The teacher reminded, Hall just remembered, kindergarten activities today, the teacher yesterday sent a notice to wear a dress, they forgot about this.
It was too late to go home and change clothes, so my daughter had to be disqualified from the event.
The company's main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the public.
From then on, Hall became depressed.
A casual remark from someone else sent him into a deep sense of remorse and sadness.
He began to lose sleep, his hair fell out in large quantities, and people became emaciated.
There is nothing in this world, the mediocre people disturb themselves.
Some pain, from the obsession with the small things in front of you, and magnify the things that are not as good.
The famous "Festinger's Law" states.
10% of your life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is determined by how you react to what happens.
For people with sensitive minds, a simple word from someone else, an inadvertent action, may touch his heart, influence his emotions, affect his mood.
However, there is good and bad in everything.
The more you care about something, the more what will torment you.
If you care about the eyes of others, you will be nervous because of shyness; if you focus on the opinions of others, you will blame yourself for your mistakes; if you expect the evaluation of others, you will suffer from mediocrity.
There are many trials and tribulations in life, so you don't have to get caught up in internal conflict over every little thing.
The people who criticize you may be used to being critical; the people who ignore you, but are indifferent by nature.
A person's most clear-headed perception is to understand that the words and actions of others have nothing to do with them.
Peaceful mood, out of the internal conflict, is the beginning of a strong life.
Xiao Li and Zhu Yun, the owners of two neighboring clothing stores, were forced to close their stores during the epidemic because they could not make ends meet.
After the stores closed, they both fell into depression.
Juk-kyun spent her days sighing and complaining about the natural and man-made disasters, eating and sleeping badly every day, and often quarreling with others, causing her acquaintances to avoid her.
Xiao Li was also frustrated for a while, but she soon picked up her spirit and learned to live-stream goods online.
During the day, she tried on clothes in front of the camera, while explaining.
At night, she repeatedly watched other anchor live video, but also joined a few live groups to learn live skills.
In two months, Xiaoli studied more than a hundred live, wrote a thick book of notes.
Today, Xiaoli has its own fan base.
Not only do they keep repurchasing, but new fans are also increasing, and sales have doubled several times over.
Life is always not as it should be, instead of being tormented by mental internal conflict, why not use action to heal yourself.
Perhaps, action can not immediately bring you success, but you can slowly get rid of the dilemma.
In the classic movie "Forrest Gump", Gump, with mediocre qualifications, eventually became a combat hero, sports champion, political celebrity and millionaire.
People have no doubt about Gump's success, and the dissection of Gump's way to success has never stopped.
There is a highly praised statement on the Internet.
"Why was Forrest Gump successful? Because Gump never wanted to be successful.
In everything he does, he just does it, not asking for results."
When he played rugby, he just kept running forward when he got the ball; when he played table tennis, he kept in mind that "don't take your eyes off the ball".
The day-to-day walk, not afraid of millions of miles; daily do, not afraid of millions of things.
Those who seem to be better than you, just earlier than you get rid of internal conflict.
Not to be disturbed by external things, in order to enrich their souls; do not use the faults of others to punish themselves, in order to live a relaxed and comfortable life.
Zeng Guofan said, "Things come to conformity, the future does not welcome, then not mixed, both over not love."
A wide heart is free of worries; a big heart is free of worries.
As the saying goes: empty talk, the foam of water; action, the drop of gold.
Doing things, not afraid of slow, but afraid to break.
When others are still hesitating over whether to do it or not, you have already beaten most people by taking the first step of action.
As snowboarding champion Su Yiming said: What lies ahead? If you slide down, you will have the answer.
The easiest cure for internal conflict is to take action immediately.
Rejecting internal conflict and taking immediate action is the beginning of a better life.
