Everyone will inevitably encounter embarrassing moments, or say the wrong thing, or be embarrassed in public. This kind of embarrassment caused by embarrassment is not necessarily a bad thing. In addition to allowing people to draw lessons from mistakes, if they encounter the same case again, they will handle it better. At the same time, it can also help people reconcile expectations and The inconsistency of reality, take the next decision more seriously.
However, embarrassment is also an emotion that is not easy to get rid of. That kind of embarrassed frustration will be hidden in the depths of many people's hearts, and it will be difficult to disappear. Come to mind.
American actor Andy Ryan once confessed an embarrassing incident on social media: when he was a child, he saw an old lady in the park shouting hello to everyone, who wants to eat ice cream? When he saw such a good thing, he followed a few people next to him to get an ice cream. Just when he was eating, the old lady asked him in surprise, who are you?
Andy Ryan looked around in amazement, only to realize that the people eating ice cream next to him were all the old lady's family. Andy Ryan said that even 30 years later, the embarrassing scene still sometimes makes him lose sleep.
A similar story is also recorded in "The Wild Records of the Qing Dynasty": In the Qing Dynasty, Zhang Jing, a surnamed Li in the military aircraft office, and Wang, who worked in the Ministry of Household, were friends who entered the rank in the same year, and Li came off work from the military aircraft office at noon every day. , went to the Wang's house outside Donghuamen to eat.
Once he took a few days off due to illness, and after returning to work, he went to Wang's house for lunch. Unexpectedly, as soon as he entered the door, he was stopped by a servant and asked him who he was looking for? Li asked in surprise, "You are new here, don't you know me?" The servant replied respectfully that it was indeed a newcomer. Li Mou then called out his name and ordered that since your master is not at home, go and report to the mistress that I am here and ask her to prepare lunch for me.
When the hostess heard the servant's report, she thought that the person who came was her husband's friend, so she didn't dare to neglect, and quickly prepared food for Li to eat. Just as Li was munching on the case alone, the master came back. Li Mou looked, it turned out to be a stranger. It turned out that the original owner had sold the house to another colleague surnamed Wang in the household department three days ago and moved out of the city by himself. Because the two have the same surname, the department and the official position are also the same, so the plaque at the door does not need to be changed.
Li was dumbfounded and embarrassed. He only wished that there were no cracks in the ground to get in. Fortunately, the new owner had also heard of Li's name, so in order not to embarrass him, he sat down to eat with him. The two chatted while eating, and they enjoyed each other very much, and they soon became good friends. After that, Li still went to Wang's house outside Donghuamen for dinner every day after get off work, and the embarrassing situation turned into a good story.
Psychologist Jung believed that the negative personality is very difficult to beat, and the really smart way is to combine the rest of the personality and realize the true whole through fusion, and the knot can be opened. Therefore, the key to resolving embarrassment is that, first, others must give the embarrassed person a chance to step down and get out of the embarrassing situation; second, the embarrassed person must give himself enough sympathy, accept the fact that he has shortcomings and make mistakes, and understand The frustration caused by embarrassing things is only temporary, there is no need to go around in circles on the same thing in vain. Learning to forget is also a kind of enlightenment.
