1 The naysayer husband
The year I met my husband, my mother had just passed away, and a home without a mother would no longer be a home. Although there were still my old father and older brothers and sisters in the family, my father and I had always had nothing to say, and my older brothers and sisters had their own families. . My mother is gone, and I seem to be an orphan. I am so eager for the warmth of home, and eager to have a home of my own.
I don't like him, let alone love him, I just don't dislike him. Our conditions are a bit inappropriate. My hometown is in the countryside, and my father and elder sister’s conditions are average. His family is in the city, and my parents and elder sister’s conditions are good. The only thing that is right for us is that we are the same age, and the emotional experience is simple. Our union is inevitably a bit hasty, but at least there is a home to place my wandering body and mind.
I am a dreamer, but Mr. is a super pragmatic person. On Valentine's Day, my first year of marriage, I was expecting that he would send me a bouquet of roses, but my husband gave me a pair of limited-edition shoes. Although the shoe size is correct, the style is not my liking and can only be displayed in the shoe cabinet forever.
"November" National Day holiday, we plan to travel to Yunnan together. I signed up for a tour group by myself. Along the way, I was intoxicated by the beautiful mountains and rivers, and I had a heated fight with the group members. private space. I wondered: "It's good to stay at home for a thousand days, but it's hard to go out for a day. Travel is originally a hell of a body and a heaven of the soul. What can you, a big man, not bear?" I will never travel with him again next time.
After my son was born, the romantic factor in my bones increased instead of decreasing. My husband loved my son so much. I couldn’t help being a little jealous. I chased my husband’s ass all day and asked him if he loves me, love me more or love my son more? The husband looked at me like a monster: "Are you still a little girl of seventeen or eighteen years old? We have to work, live and raise children. Where do we come from so much love and love, how old are you and still eat the jealousy of children? Hurry up and do the laundry!" I almost talked like chickens and ducks, and the conversation with Mr. was not on the same channel from beginning to end.
My husband's parenting style is totally different from my husband's in the education of my son. From childhood to adulthood, whatever the son asks, the husband will try his best to meet it, which fully reflects the omnipotence of a father. My son's toys have taken up half of the family. I went to the kindergarten to pick him up from school. My son asked for toys every time. If he didn't buy them, he would cry and make trouble. When the husband picks up his son, he will respond to every request. The two of them can't wait to open a toy supermarket at home.
Every time I educate my son, my husband always stops me and sings against me. My young son always says, "Dad is a good father, and mother is a bad mother." Tong Yanwuji made me even more angry with my husband.
2 Live a day AA system
My husband's income is about the same as mine. It seems that the two of us have always been financially responsible for our own profits and losses, and we do not interfere with each other financially. The AA system life seems to give me the equality I want, and the freedom he wants. Whoever owns the wallet is in charge. He can justifiably have his own "small treasury", and I can also have my own "private money" with peace of mind. .
On weekdays, my husband and I don't have any major conflicts, but who doesn't have a bad family at home! Once, my sister called me and said that my father was coughing up blood. I was so anxious that I burst into tears. My husband said sourly, "Your sister is not asking for money!" It was like pouring cold water from head to toe. Standing up, he said angrily, "I just want money, and I want the money I earned myself." The
couple lived at home, and I was most afraid of others coming to the house to borrow money. Early in the morning, my husband's classmates came to borrow 5,000 yuan to see the child's doctor, but the emergency did not help the poor. This money should be borrowed. My husband scratched his head and said, "This kid doesn't care when he goes to school. What should I do if I don't pay it back?" I Persuaded: "If we don't pay it back, we will spend money to meet someone." The husband was confused and couldn't make up his mind. The classmate was neither sitting nor standing in our living room. Seeing a big man crying in front of me, I softened my heart and took 5,000 yuan in cash from my bank card for the classmate. For the 5,000 yuan, my husband and I had a lot of trouble with me for a long time, always blaming me for being poor and generous.
I have a few good girlfriends, and they get along well. When I got married and had a child, everyone took money with them, but my husband never took the initiative to entertain my friends and colleagues, or even let me associate with them. After a long time, my friends all know that I have a "miser" husband, and the relationship between everyone and me is getting estranged.
There is only one exception. On the issue of raising our son, the two of us are scrambling to pay the bill, and we rarely talk about the AA system. Who made the son our common property!
My parents-in-law's family despised me, a non-local daughter-in-law. Every time my mother-in-law came to my house, she always said that I was like a man-in-law and made the mess like a dog kennel. The more picky she was, the more lazy I was to clean up, and I said, "You can't stand it, you clean up!" My mother-in-law was the head nurse of a hospital before she retired. She has a serious cleanliness addiction. It's too fake to be like her. My mother-in-law and I were at odds with each other, so that my mother-in-law was reluctant to come to my house, and I was also reluctant to go to my mother-in-law's house. It's not a matter of distance, it's just sitting at a table, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law don't talk too much. Thanks to my son in the middle to liven up the atmosphere, otherwise, the scene would be even more embarrassing.
My in-laws and I have always had a turbulent relationship. They love their sons and grandsons. Sons and grandsons are connected with them by blood. They are all family, but I am an outsider. After every family gathering, I was secretly sulking, and my husband advised me: "You think too much, no matter what your parents do, you want your children to be happy."
3 find love in the run-in
I am a salesperson, and I have a lot of entertainment and business trips. I can't take care of the daily expenses at home. My husband is arguing about the AA system and doing things according to the rules. Once I didn't cooperate in time, he chased after me and reasoned: "Which law stipulates that a man must support his family? A man must make money for women to spend?" I immediately retorted: "You are a big man, even if you don't have a family to support you. At least you have to have this heart!" Even Zhang Ailing said that it is a happy thing for a woman to spend the money of a man who loves her, not to mention me and other women. The couple was calculating all day long, how could they live on, I moved out of the house angrily and moved into a star-rated hotel.
This time, my husband panicked and followed me behind me to pay for my hotel stay. I was determined to divorce this petty citizen, and no matter how much he persuaded me, I would not go home. I stayed in the hotel for a week, and my husband brought his son to visit every day. One night, my son fell asleep, and my husband and I sat down to discuss the details of the divorce. While we were talking, my husband suddenly burst into tears. I couldn't help being stunned. When did this man cry? The husband took my hand and said, "Wife, I don't agree to divorce. It's not easy for us to get to where we are today. You forget how you longed for a home when we first met."
In his ramble, I fell into the memory of the past, Mr. selfishness is to himself, he never adds clothes, to our family, he is selfless, all the money he earns is spent on When building our small home, I was a person who couldn't control consumption when I had money in my pocket. I bought a lot of useless things along the way when I went shopping, and he never talked about me. The fitness card I got in the fitness center can't go several times a year. He said that as long as the wife is happy, isn't it just a few thousand yuan? I like to eat buffets, and I take my son to eat every other day. My husband never refutes it. I'm financially free because he's doing it for me.
When we got married, my husband saw that my mother-in-law and I were at odds and declined the invitation to live with them. After renting the house for two years, I bought a two-bedroom apartment. In this regard, he is quite prescient: "As long as we don't live under the same roof, there will not be so many things between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If we can't afford a big house, we can buy a small house. If we can't afford a small house, we can rent a house. "
During New Years and festivals, he always booked a family reunion dinner at a restaurant outside, saving me the trouble of doing it at home. It is because of my husband's understanding that I have never been angry with my mother-in-law over the years of marriage.
Although there are 10,000 shortcomings in the husband, there is one advantage. He always does things that I don't like to do, and he never forces me to do it. I am allergic to the smell of soot from frying and cooking, and the kitchen has become his world. He cooks three meals a day for my son and I. I am too lazy to clean up the housework.
When I was middle-aged, I was clamoring for further studies and charging. I signed up for psychology and English training courses. At night, rain or shine, I went to the university to listen to lectures. He took his son at home, told his son stories, and put his son to sleep. It turns out that for so many years, my husband has been pampering me like a little girl, no wonder he doesn't "hate iron but not steel" for my growth.
Only then did I realize that my husband was not as bad as I thought. He still cherished this home and couldn't bear my wife, so he went down the ladder and the husband and wife worked together to return the home.
My family's spicy AA system seems to be continuing, but it has become moderately loose. My husband and I have learned to turn a blind eye. Husbands and wives live together, provide houses, support cars, and live in houses, and pay for their own clothing, food, housing, and transportation. However, if even the firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, and tea are divided into five or five parts, this is a bit pretentious and a bit raw. Even if money and property can be clearly divided, what about children? What about feelings? Husbands and wives can settle accounts clearly, but not finely.
In the past two years, due to the impact of the epidemic, my work has been difficult to carry out, the business has shrunk, and my income has dropped a lot, but my husband's business has not been affected at all. He took the initiative to apply for a bank card and handed it to me: "Wife, don't be reluctant to spend money, don't make yourself wrong, there is still me at home!" I was surprised and moved. There is a saying that men and women work together without getting tired. This sentence also applies to marriage. Those who earn more make more money, and those who earn less make less. Husband and wife do what they can, which not only respects each other, but also reflects fairness and fashion.
The fireworks of the world create the hearts of mortals. Every woman once dreamed of meeting a Prince Charming, with outstanding temperament, talent, passion and romance, but she ended up marrying an ordinary and dull man who only knew that his wife and children were hot on the kang head, but it was such a man that he had the patience to talk with me. A match of firewood, rice, oil and salt, noisy love, gave me a peaceful life and a stable happiness in this world.
